How Pride & Money DON'T Mix

How Pride & Money DON'T Mix

Here's the point of this blog...to help everyone get to their first million. We're not interested 'get rich in 30 days' rubbish. Can it happen? Yes. Does it happen by you signing up for some affiliate program...No, most likely
it won't.

Here's our story...
We once had a large home in a nice neighborhood on the bench. We were making a lot of money, I had my own business, free time, vacations in Greece & Costa Rica. We could afford to do whatever we wanted; we had the best of the American Dream....& then the bottom fell out from under us.
My business partner quit & left me with a ton of debt causing a domino effect.

We burned through our equity, my business went up & down, our investments died, all sources of income stopped.
We were once 'the family' in our ward; we had it all. As it began to unravel, I had to uproot & move my family. With 3 little children & a wife 9 months pregnant, we were forced to sell our dream home and move into a rundown area of town into a home filled with black mold & possibly meth fumes.
After unpacking, we only stayed in the house for one night; the mold & chemicals nearly causing us to black out.
Once again, I packed up my family & had to move into my wifes parents home to sleep on the floor or couch. Our family of 6 crowded into a home with five already there. We only stayed for a month & then moved again into a 70 year old, 1600 square foot rental home owned by one of my wife's high school friends.
There I was, 40 years old, with a dead end job & no prospects; having only made about $3000 dollars in 6 months, a family to support; how in the world had this happened to us?

In a word...PRIDE. Complete, evil Pride.

We had grown prideful of the trappings of our 'success.' It was very intoxicating to realize that I made more in one month than most people made in the entire year. Slowly, with little perception, this pride led to seeing others in a different light. I had the outward appearance of a good person but, deep inside I was prideful.
Pride I found leads to Fear. Fear feeds pride but, pride is a insatiable beast that can never be sated & will eventually will bring about complete failure. I was deeply afraid that the money would run out, and it did. This fear led to our downfall.

During the downfall, I found myself sitting in a cubicle surrounded by 90 other salesmen who were 25 years my junior, working 60 hours a week at a commission only job when I had once owned my own company was crushing to my soul but, very, very therapeutic.
I had a lot of time to think & reflect on what had happened in the last 12 months. I did a lot of fasting & repenting; I changed.
At this time (perhaps out of desperation) I began to get into success literature: Anthony Robbins, T. Harv Eker, Napoleon Hill, James Arthur Ray et al & I realized, "I did this to myself!' I'm 100% responsible for my life & no one else." We lost it all because of pride, fear & doubt.

I want others to learn from our mistakes & see us climb back out of this. I have also established a discussion forum where I want everyone to come & discuss how they are working to earn their first million & I want to invite our team to join in the discussion:
http://groups.google.com/group /millionaire-mind-set?hl=en

Our discussion group is dedicated to helping everyone reach their first million but first, everyone needs to change their thinking down to their DNA to get themselves in the mindset to be a millionaire. Having had a lot & lost it all, I can directly testify that you must be able to first be a thousandaire before you can be trusted with a million & be a millionaire.

We want everyone to come & join the discussion. We have a STRICT 'no spam' policy & I moderate all messages to make sure that we're always on task & not discussing ' rubbish.

So, please invite anyone who wants to discuss how we can help one another become successful from the inside out.

Cheers,

Darrell

Millionaire Mind: How To Think LIke A Millionaire

Recently I have been listening to Brian Tracy's "Million Dollar Habits." If you haven't picked up this CD compilation I highly recommend it.

Brian Tracy goes through his struggles to learn to make his first million & painfully it struck a cord with me. He stated that in his 20's he set a goal to be a millionaire by age 30. His thirtieth birthday came & went & yet he still wasn't a millionaire so, he moved his millionaire goal to 35 which also left him struggling financially & so he moved it to 40.
Finally, he realized that if you want to be a carpenter you study carpentry, if you want to learn to be a lawyer you study law. He, like me, had a goal to be a millionaire yet, he like myself had never put the time into learning what it takes to be a millionaire.

What do millionaires do, how do they think, what do they read, how do they handle situations.

I have been thinking about this with great intensity. I put also all my waking thoughts into how can I turn things around.

We have filed for WIC & Medicad. Amazing. Once I was making $70,000 dollars a month. I traveled to Greece, Costa Rica would travel to an exclusive, members only resort in high Rockies to go mountain biking, now my wife goes to the local grocery store with food stamps.

Why?
Very, very simple. We put ourselves here.

How?
That's complex. We thought ourselves here. We, or at least I secretly harbored fears that we would lose our money & we did. I didn't put the time & effort into thinking like a millionaire; now I do.
How To Think Like A Millionaire & Become A Millionaire

NOTE: You make a total commitment to changing yourself from the inside out. This isn't a one time effort. You can't follow the elementary teachings of The Secret & merely say, "I'm a millionaire" thinking you've put it out there to the Universe/God etc & then sit back & dream you millions into your lap. Trust me....it doesn't work.

This revolutionary technique must be practiced twice a day for 15 minutes in the morning & 15 minutes in the evening. You must find a quiet spot where you won't be bothered; even if you have to put a chair in the closet or go sit in your car in the garage while your spouse watches the kids, that's fine. But, you need to be dedicated to it & do it for at least 30 days.

Step One: Clear you mind. You have to completely clear your mind of all thoughts of doubt, fear & uncertainty. Typically this doesn't happen instantly, you have to work at it. The best way I've found is that two thoughts can't occupy the mind at the same time; though they may flip back & forth in your mind quickly it's impossible for two thoughts to occupy the mind at the same time. Therefore, the trick is to first recognize what it is that you're thinking about; if it's not how to become or be a millionaire then change your thoughts.
Start by taking four deep breaths, to a count of four when you breathe in & four counts breathing out. What this does is slow your heart rate down & actually begins a physiological response to literally change your mind by changing your brain wave patterns to a state of learning.
After you've counted to four you should be relaxed. Now, begin counting down from 50 to 1 as you breathe in & out. You will notice a lot of thoughts coming into your mind that are the random chaos of life; acknowledge them & then push them aside. You may try saying a simple word, 'SUCCESS' over & over as you slowly count down.

Wealth Principle: Thoughts lead to Feelings, Feelings lead to actions, Actions lead to results

"Your financial blueprint consists of a combination of your thoughts, feelings, & actions in the area of money." --T. Harv Eker

As a child we were each taught how to feel about money & wealth. You & I were taught a certain mindset about how to either financially create or destroy ourselves. These teachings became our conditioning, which automatically became our responses during our lives when we deal with money.

Here's an interesting question to pose to yourself.....
"Where did my thoughts concerning money & wealth come from? Why do I think differently from the next person, my friends or even, family members?"

My father was raised as one of 14 children of a crop sharer. He & his siblings grew up in the post-Depression era. Due to this national mentality about money they too became scarce in their thinking.
Their scarcity continues to this day both personally & with their children. My cousins live on welfare, church charity & on asking others for help; it's always "The Man's" fault; they are never personally responsible for their situations.
Finally, my father & two other brothers actually broke free of this financial deathgrip.

Your thoughts originate in what's called "hidden programs" that run in your mind sub-consciously; do these thoughts or phrases sound familiar?

"What am I made of money?"
"Do you think money grows on trees?"
'We can't afford that!"
"I can't seem to get a break financially."
Etc., etc., etc.,

I remember hearing that we couldn't afford things, we were strapped financially. Even now you can still hear someone saying, 'Wow, that's expensive!'

All these phrases are negative financial phrases that repel financial success thus, the following model presents itself:

P->T->F->A=R

Programming (good or bad) leads to Thoughts which lead to Feelings that create Actions that equal Results.

How does this manifest in our lives or, in my case in my life?

I was raised with a scarcity mentality; we didn't know anyone in family that had ever been wealthy. I attended a high school in the northwest Houston area that had kids who would drive up in Porches & BMW's & park next to kids who were in beat-up farm trucks or, even worse walked or rode the bus because their families were too poor to afford a car.
We had families in our school district that had 10 to 15 bedroom homes on the Raveneaux Golf Club course & not 10 minute drive from there kids living in corrigated tin shanty hovels with old couches on the porch.

I was the son of a blue collar mechanic who had left school in the 10th grade. I had never heard of entreprenuerism, or the difference between working for a living or creating multiple streams of income.

My programming ran deep & was hard wired into my psyche; we were a middle-class, blue collar family & dad had to work a lot of overtime to make whatever money we had. To my parents credit, we were all told that when we went college not if we went to college things would improve as we learned to help ourselves.

My mothers family was similar. My grandmother was from England but, had been brought over by my grandfather after WWII. He was also was the son of a poor East Texas farmer. My grandfather had a 3rd grade education & drove a fuel truck through the backwoods of East Texas.
Growing up, for a time, my mother & her family lived in a log cabin in the woods. Needless to say, money for them & later, my mother was always a factor.

Fast forward to my life & marriage.

When we married, I lived in an 100 year old home with some buddies, sleeping on the floor with some blankets, two bikes, some books, my computer & I had $500 dolllars in the bank. My wife by contrast, because of my wifes family situation had been supporting herself financially since she was 8 years old by making pies, baby-sitting & cleaning. When we married she had paid cash for all her cars, had traveled & lived in Israel, Mexico & Canada. She had stocks & investments; she had broke out of the grasp of her upbringing but, I was still a slave to the programming of my family.

Wealth Affirmations & Vision Statements: How to manifest money

I been working on fine tuning the correct manifestation affirmations that I use.

Currently I feel that when you sit & meditate, pray, etc (whatever is your preferred method) that you should speak as if the object or event is in the now & currently exists in your life rather than stating something such as...

"I hope one day to be a millionaire," or "I'd love to be wealthy." I even personally feel that stating "I intend to be wealthy" is still not positive & faithful enough as it's still a future tense statement meaning you'll never achieve your goal as you 'intend' to do or have whatever it is that you're desiring.

If you've been reading my blog, I was once on my way to being a millionaire & a financially secure life however; I lost it. I was making my fortune in investing before I knew anything the Law of Attraction however; as we all know, the Law of Attraction still operates whether you know about it or agree with. I lost my fortune because I grew prideful & began to fear losing the money.

Now after having done extensive work with the various Laws Of The Universe such as the Law Of Attraction, The Law Of Reciprocity, etc., I have come to the conclusion that in order to manifest properly in your life you must do the following steps:

1. KNOW WHAT YOU DON'T WANT: Know what it is that you don't want in your life. This is controversial because people will say that you're focusing on the negative but, I would disagree because there must be opposition in all things & knowing what it is that you DON'T want helps to more fully define what it that you DO want.

2. KNOW WHAT YOU DO WANT: You need to figure out what it is that you want in your life; health, wealth, knowledge, love, friendship etc.

3. FULLY CLARIFY YOUR DESIRES: I personally sat down & created 101 goals for my life in each of the 5 major areas...Physical, Spiritual, Financial, Social, and Intellectual. I am currently writing Vision Statements for each goal; here's an example:

Goal: Personal Net Worth of 4.5 million by 2013.

Vision Statement: My business is booming. I have a monthly net income of $60,000 dollars coming from various sources.

I see myself I coming through the gate onto my short, private drive that is lined with beautiful, full-leaved tress. I pull up in my G500 Mercedes into the circular driveway of in front of my 6,200 square foot Mediterranean style home that's nestled in the foothills on 5 acres of private land.

It’s evening & the sunlight is hitting the copper highlights of my roof. I can see 2 of my children are out back playing on the play equipment. I come into the side of the house into the kitchen; my wife is there working with our oldest daughter on homework.

The tile in the kitchen is large & well-laid; the lighting is bright & the home has a welcoming feel to it. I have been meeting with clients for a few hours & I'm getting ready to take a short vacation with my family. I head into my home office. On my glass & Mahogany desk I have two large monitors that display a new website I'm working on. I drop off my laptop & head through the door into our master bedroom. Etc. etc.

In this vision statement I am explicit in details. I really want to fully intend all the aspects of my goal not simply say 'I intend to have nice home.' This type of statement is worthless & will get you a 'nice home.' I grew up in a simple, 1900 square foot rambler in east Texas; it was a simple, little home but, nothing like the home I used to have before I lost it.

In this step you need to go into detail on each goal you intend to manifest. God, the Universe or whatever you believe in needs the details.

4. MAKE A SIMPLIFIED VERSION OF THE MAJOR GOAL: In my case, "I am a multi millionaire. I have a net worth of $4.5 million dollars & make $65,000 dollars a month."

5. SET THE INTENTION: You need to fully state the intention to the Universe. You need to state the intention in its fullness so that there's no mistake about the intension.

6. WORK TOWARDS THE INTENTION: You need to work towards the intention. I can't get back my home that I once had if I choose to sit in the living room of the home we're currently renting & 'dream of my millions.' Faith without works is DEAD. You need to work towards your goals & continue to manifest.